On Human Psychology
With the development of technology and facilitated communication, standard of living has came to eaiser position. These positive improvements as if they look good also creates new problems. I'm going to handle some todays psychological problems especially with the development of technology.
Not Setting Up Your Route
There are bunch of ideas coming onto us as technology and communication facilitate. We feel needed to get advise when a goal is set up particularly if other people's opinions are neccesary. This is normal. We should listen to them and pay attention to their advises but we need to make these decisions on our own. The problem is here, expecting to other people take step and so to speak we let them interfering and that's the essential problem. Filling many ideas into minds by searching on internet or getting from environment about something causes a confusion. And also we need to be aware of that majority does not always mean accurate and we shoud not follow the crowd.
Seeking For Pleasures
In our modern age persuit of happiness is like an addiction. Dopamine is a Neurotransmitter molecule in our brains. This is the hormone relating to pleasures. Smoking and like kind of other things regularly stimulate neurohormones. When a body stops to doing that after an addiction, certainly that person will not feel good at all. That's why most people can not become sober after an addiction. We can also assoicate this kind of addiction with todays obssesive persuit of happiness. In fact, not many of them will accept by just themself this case. But some people's additude proves otherwise whether they accept or not by verbally. For example, constantly loading and sharing photos on social media. Nothings wrong with that actually. But there is something wrong with becoming an addicted person of social media. If someone ceases sharing photo on social media and afterwards feels bad it's likely that person is addicted. This is not an evidence by itself but some realities will emerge for sure. Some of the famous people those who are sharing a lot of photos on social media trigger other people's desire and make them emulated. And of course everyone who regularly share photos on social media are not included. I'm trying to emphasize on incentive ones. People who feel overwhelmed and contemptible when they do not share something on social media are good representative examples.
The other things that I want to discuss about it is desire of shopping. Of course I mention about only for those who are addicted. We need to shop and buy of course. Bu today's one of the huge problem with is obessing with shopping and feel needed to buy something overmuch. This is more common among the wealthy people. But it doesn't mean that every wealthy person is addicted or spend his/her money overmuch. And those who have not hobby or any business to spend the time tend to do some kind of things. Collecting unnecesarily many stuffs merely satisfy own egos. Nothing is wrong with purchasing stuffs. Even, we should get them when we need. But making a habit out of it is the main problem. It will cause many problems and lack of posessions. I can give an example, driving the same car for a little while(it depends) and then getting bored of it and make a decision to change to that and purchasing new one. Of course I do not include spesific cases like if someone got more money and able to get better one or when a car is ruined and needs to be changed. And purchasing a lot of videogames, series or movies so as to spend all free time and making them habit is among such situation. As I described just before, nothing wrong with purchising them, the problem is with exaggeration. And stacking unnecessary stuff is one of the other problem beside them.
Common Daily Mistakes
I will mention about that we generally make mistakes in our daily life which bring us negative conclusions. This badly effects our relationship with our family and friends.
-When something terrible happened, inane rebellions or ignoring rather than looking fora a solution. So, not to look for a solution or not to see the reason. When you take a step by that no problem will be solved and quaility of social life will be decreased. They are mostly arrogant people.
-When a info arrived not looking for it's essence reasons. Taking actions with no knowledge would bring you to some condition that you will regret. You shall not believe just because you heard or when you are told to believe. People can be easily taken in by fake new from media. For example, someone shares a photo of a sick person and then says if you like this post you will contribute to this patient with 5 cash, if you share 10 cash if you do like that 20 and on and on. And they deceive people like that and they are the ones who earn money from that by ads.
-Instant decisions from spesific time period. When you saw someone doing something in that moment and being decisive of that person's personality. For example, when you just come up to any place and come a cross with a fight between two people and one of them beaten from the other one and then without knowing anything about that fight and accusing the beater with no reason. We must search for it's reasons and try to understand why that fight is occured.
-Humiliation of yourself. Being humble is virtues behaviour but my point is at make a habit out of it and then humililating yourself toward other people. Ignoble behaviour like this going to damage social life for sure. And most of the people dislike you if you keep going on that way. we can say for opposition of meaing the same thing. For whatever it's consequences being stick to same manner and same opions and never really willing to change your mind. Never accept to own mistake and like being an arrogant. This is more common in human race. And this is worse than the first one no doubt.
-Never leaving own ideas. Isolation yourself from new things or different ideas. This is a huge obstacle of progress of your life. Therefore, leading a good life is not possible.
-Reacting with bigger anger against an anger. Even if opponent is wrong with their points we must step up with an empathy. We should not react with an anger against our opponent, rather, we should wait for the right time and right place to discuss the matter each other and subsequently we must be looking for solutions. We must be wise enough to control our tempers even if there are many people those who are trying to provoke us.
We Cannot Make Us An Animal
Some animals in nature live together in herd. For instance, wolves, zebras, migratory birds, ants and bees. They act and live together in a harmony without demand of a shepherd who would lead them. However, unfortunately most people in our modern world who have poor will tend to seek for a shepherd. They demand a shepherd to be leaded. They want to be a sheep, so to speak. They want to ruler. Our society in the world consist of these kind of people. They want to a leader and master. They want to worship the masters. In case all of this things don't implement they afraid of being stray and they cannot make their way properly. Because they have eliminated this options by themselves in their mind. This type of thinkings mostly seen in ideologies, religions and politics. Moreover, this situtation could be seen in business, caboodle, community and other modes where they obey the their masters. You could easily see that how people obey their leader and boss if you travel specific locations. They are almost everywhere and you do not need to go far away to see such sort of things. Our society builded like that and it does not works when such main fundamental requiretments of this order. When you do not do things perfectly and accurate chances are almost reduces to zero to survive without obey the boss. It does not matter how you are good at your job there will always be someone who try to dominate you. Of course there are some exceptions.
Building Up Social Life As Dualism
I have mainly stood on mistake in this article that generally make by people. In the part of this article instead, I will mainly focus on the things that seem to us good. I'm going to stick to understanding of dulism in this part so we can grasp the main point and I may express my thoughts better. Everything becomes clearer from perspective of dualism. When we do good things or make someone happy we tend to think all it's good with it and it must be like that. And that's partly true. Doing good things is good. But what if we do overmuch? I have already mentioned about this situation but I will aproach this time a bit different but not apart from same reason. When we make somone happy, that's is good. But if we do that more than enough it's going to get boring and not make that person again. As a result of that, this will bring unhappiness rather than happiness. For example, let's handle this situation in terms of relationships with opposite sex. Unfortunately these days we see a lot of divorces. What separates these spouses among each other? We can count many reasons but somethings meet at same point. Fundamental reason is same. Unbalanced relations cause disagreement. For example, if one of the spouse is talks too much or being unnecesarily quiet, do not take responsibilities or risk him/herself too much, cares unnecesarily simple things and avoiding the empathy. These things are common mistake that make by spouse among the eacher. Thus, it makes their relationship ruined and even it could bring them into the divorce action in time. We can think on other relationship whether it's a friend, parent, relative or sibling. Finally, so as to control own relationship with our acquaintances in order we need to find the optimum point between order and chaos. Sometimes it has to be in different points and that's the most significant and diffucult part of it.
