Why Happiness Can't Be A Goal?
Here I'll explain that happiness is why cannot be goal of life. People want to be happy and that's quite normal thing aim to. But this is not our point. Avoid the unhappiness people try to attain happiness and put it on their main goal of life. However it seems like a good thing, aiming to happiness will carry us onto the worse position in our life. And those who inject into our minds happiness as a goal of life by series and movies they are aware of it and they do this intentionally. Nonetheless, here I'll explain the detriments of this issue.
With exaggerated movies and series they inject the happiness into our minds and try to provide the people live by. They exactly know what are the harms of pursuit of happiness and when people who watch these movies they tend to think "I should live like this, I wanna be hero, I wanna have a gf/bf like this, and on, and on" through the pursuing happiness people gonna be inevitably dissapointed in the end. Because they exhibit the exaggerated scenes which rarely happens in real life. Even if the things really happened in real life that's why they enact these scenes. In this article, I'll separete to four main topic. Dualism, the existance of time, dissapointment and relative happinesses.
The Existence of Time
The universe where we live has the time and due to the existence of time the pleasures will never last forever. We can only remember them. Delicacies of this life might provide long-term hapiness for us maybe it could be forever but the pleasures will not be like initial times. For instance let's say someone bought a gift for us. And this situiation made us very happy. This is a good thing and it makes us people happy. However, we don't feel the same thing after a good while. Neither a week or a mount later. For another instance listen to music that we like. First listening differ very much from 137th listening and It doesn't give us same feelings. That's why feelings of happinesses don't remain in the same level. It's gone and doesn't exist anymore. Instant happinesses don't remain forever. In this context it's a wrong thing that aim to a temporary thing. Of course happiness is a good thing and nothing wrong with desire of happiness. But persuing happiness with high exceptations will bring us unhappiness rather than happiness.
Relative Hapinesses
I am just trying to say here even though there are various happinesses in this life happiness is limited. For instance let's consider this. We give 500€ to a poor man. In this case poor man gonna be happy. If we give the same amount of money to a rich man we cannot except the same reaction from rich man. He will not be happy at all. Because he already has his money. As a matter of fact the potantial of happiness will reduce over time that we have it. Because the things will decrease in number which make us happy.
Dualism
This is the most significant subject that we need to understand correctly. Don't ever forget this: Evil exist. cause favour exists. This two things linked to each other. So without sorrow or unhappiness, happiness can't be exist. For instances; without fatigue we cannot feel the happiness of rest, without illness we cannot feel the hapiness of heal and without effort we cannot reach our goals. The concepts we don't possess(fortune, love, affections etc.) exists because there are chance not to exist. These are exist because it's possible these thing cannot be exist as well. Otherwise if there was only one possiblity we couldn't call these concepts of happiness. Because there could only one thing exist and there could be nothing to separate the duals which are linked to each other. We can say the same thing for evil and favour. These duals wouldn't exist without one other. Duals completely linked each other. Consequestly, we need to make balance between happiness and unhappiness. In dualism I can count some mistakes that people usally do: forcing the limits in food flavour and eating much causes obesity, listen to music too much makes people bored and spending too much money is waste. Balance is very important for these things I have explained and of course for the other things that I'd passed.
Disappointment
If we determine a goal as a main goal of life and if we draw the course according to this and in case if we fail, at the end a big disappointment and unhappiness could occured. Instead of Pursuing the happiness we shoud except the happiness a prize of achievements. And we should strive for good thing that would be benefit for us, life and humanity. For a consideration example we race with someone. In this race our goal gonna be win. The goal isn't for be happy when we win the race. The goal is win the race. Eventually we will be happy if we win race. We should aim to win the race and as a consequence of victory we can be happy. Mind the fine line here. If we set our goal like this and in case we lose this race will we be happy because of defeat not inability to attain happiness. Sadness is a good thing in this situation the potential of happiness will increase for next races. It will give us more happiness no doubt. Even in defeat potential happiness will increase. If we turn back to main subject even if we reach the happiness it won't last much and rate of happiness will return to level zero in time. People don't understand this nuance and they blindly pursue happiness. And it makes them more unhappy and they force on it. Actually they don't even aware of it. This is what I'm trying to describe in this article.
Finally, we should set our life of goals according to balances of duals not to happiness. There could be a happiness in the end of a suffering. Without sadness, happiness wouldn't exist. We must have will that control our goals in our lifes. Numbers of happiness doesn't make us happier. If same things happen in a row which we like these thing will make us bored and distress at the same time. The two main reason of suicide is set happiness as a goal of life. People who set their life happiness as a goal of life tend to suicide more than other people in comparion. Because even if they reach their goal they will have a boring life and on the other and if they cannot reach their goal they are gonna be disappointed and life will be distressful. It's not coincidence that suicide rates higher in contries which have the most welfare. Of course it's not the main reason but it's one of the reason of suicides. Younger people tend to suicide than olders cause they lived fewer than older people and they had fewer potential happiness. Happiness isn't a bad thing and nothing wrong with desire of it. If we live and set our goals right then real happiness will come to us. There are difference between desire and set goal of life. Comprehend this difference well and you will be happier when good things happen.
